Do you remember your childhood? Do you remember that innocent child that explored the natural world unconcerned about boundaries and limitations? That child that was often scolded and disciplined for his foolish actions.
Chances are you probably grew up thinking you could not wait until you moved out of your parents’ home and could explore the world unabated and explore every possibility and experience there was out there. Yes, you may have had some wild college experiences, back-to-back parties, alcohol, and even encounters you have consigned to the dark recesses of your memory.
But none of these things are exactly pioneering are they. Irresponsibility isn’t really exploring the world. The truth is between our parents, university education, our peers, religious circles, and families we invariably learn to develop worldviews and values that are accommodating to the people we associate ourselves with.
Parents and schools define success as doing well in school and getting a middle-class job. You may never really have stood a chance of actually becoming that over-grown child you always wished you could be.
I have mentored countless people over the years and helped them fulfill their deepest longings. I have found from experience that many people do not desire millionaire status because they want money. They want to be free once again as if they were when they were children and not be shackled to a 9-to-5 job with limited career prospects and personal development.
It’s not a surprise that many billionaires did not do well academically and choose to drop out of college and chase their dreams. The thought of conforming to the mundane status quo of the workforce is too much to bear.
The millionaire mindset quickly realizes this deep yearning and craving to be financially free will not go away unless something is done about it.
All we need to do is take action, but we have been programmed by society and the educational system to be the worker drones. Without the worker drones, the colony of capitalism cannot exist. The millionaire mindset recognizes the system it is in and takes actions to change what role the individual plays within the system.
The journey of success will mean many a great decision will need to be made. Some of these decisions will be difficult and let me be perfectly honest with you; I have, and you will fail when you attempt great things in this life.
But the point is this, do you have the fortitude to get back up and keep trying?
I spoke with a man once who complained about the universe hating him and being opposed to his success. I asked him, “How many times have you failed in life?” He replied, “three times, and I’m tired I have put my heart and soul into succeeding in business, and I am just tired.” I then asked him, “When you learned to ride your bike as a kid how many times did you fall exactly? Give me the exact number.” He paused and replied, “I don’t know, must have been loads, I can’t remember.” I said to him as dramatically as I could, “When you were a kid you were obsessed with the single idea of you successfully one day riding your bike. You fell, it hurt, but you got back up and tried again and again and again until you could ride. You saw other kids doing it, so you knew it was possible. Falling was a necessary part of you learning to ride as each time you fell you learned to balance. You focused on success, and your courage made you try again. What’s different about you becoming a success?”
That man was able to find the courage to keep moving forward and has done pretty well for himself.
Are you like that young man? Has life knocked you back and forth or have you just been paralyzed with fear of getting hurt if you try.
It takes courage to get hit by life and keep moving forward, but that’s what you have to do. You can go very far in this journey with courage. If you learn nothing else from this book, learn to be courageous and refuse to stay down when you are knocked down. Get back up and fight for your dreams because I assure you if you won’t no one else will. Heaven helps those who help themselves.
What is the face of courage?
Contrary to popular belief courage is not a big action but more of a series of small actions that you do in everyday life. It’s the small strokes that you put on the canvas to get a bigger picture. It’s not giving up even if you were the last person to finish the race line because you knew the journey mattered more than the destination. It’s the ability to inspire other people to be brave too by being a role model. Fighting for opportunities even when you are scared. Courage is about being a hero and not expecting anything in return. Fighting with your parents, friends and people who tell you it cannot be done, and you’re turning back half way and telling them “Watch Me.”
I like this quote from a movie “We Bought a Zoo”. The main character’s son likes a girl so as a father he tells his son –
“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.”
How many times in our lives, we have seen this beautiful girl pass by without saying anything to her because we are afraid. By telling her that she is cute, and you would like to talk to her, you are making her day better, so why not do that? We don’t do it because this little devil inside our head is telling us not to. It’s telling us about all the bad outcomes that might happen if we do approach her. It’s making us doubt ourselves and making us feel insecure. I think it’s time for us to stop listening to that devil and do what our heart truly craves. That girl is like an awesome life changing opportunity. We let it go by because we feel we are not worthy of it, or it is too difficult for us to handle.
I remember my first date with my wife how awkward and clumsy it must have been, but something told me back then she was the one. I had no other choice but to overcome my chronic shyness. I remember thinking “If I can just get past this first date and not mess it up.”
Like the father said just be courageous for 20 seconds and not afraid of embarrassing yourself and give that opportunity a shot. A chance. It might just be the diamond you were always looking for in the mines.
There are going to be times in life when we will have to show courage to take opportunities. Don’t think of courage as simply a dare. It involves a lot of variables some of which I am going to discuss.
On our journey through life, we will often be hurt by people and events beyond our control. We will enter deals that despite our very best due diligence simply don’t work out. What is important in all this is to learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward. You must find the courage to deal with the ups and downs of success. Many businessmen have been bankrupted and lost several businesses several times over before finally stabilizing and finding that one opportunity. Be ready for an emotional rollercoaster ride and have the courage to get on and hang on to the end.
The courage to try
The difference between winners and losers is that winners never quit, and quitters never win; and that’s it, that’s all I need to know. Successful people are persistent and don’t let go of their aim and goals readily.
Winning is never easy. Sometimes we see athletes as superhuman creatures who have evolved, beyond the average beer guzzling, the over-weight guy who worships them, but trust me, when I tell you they are just as human as you are.
What they do so effortlessly and naturally on the field of play has been developed through thousands of hours of practice. Becoming a super athlete starts with a simple idea that you can become one and getting up from that couch and becoming one.
Try, that’s all you have to do, try to keep on working and having the courage to stick in there until you achieve your goals.
Imagine the world if Einstein gave up or Mahatma Gandhi gave up. The world wouldn’t have been the way it is today. Courage is not always like a lion’s roar sometimes it’s a little voice in our head that says, “I will try again tomorrow.”
The courage to dream
Martin Luther King’s dream was to have a nation in which people are not discriminated against because of the color of their skin. Steve Jobs dream was to make a dent on this universe and bringing such products into existence that will push the human race forward. Elon Musk, who is not only a great Entrepreneur but also a great visionary, has a dream of colonizing Mars. If you notice, there is a recurring theme in all the successful people. It’s the courage to dream and dream big. They are not satisfied with small dreams. They make their dreams their obsessions.
However, big dreams come with great risks. People even your close ones expect you to fail in your adventure, and there is a high possibility that you will fail. About 95% of the people, who dream big, end up giving up their dreams. If you want to end up in the rest 5%, you will need to have a lot of courage and a great resolve to continue even in the face of adversity. You will have to give it everything. You will be tired but keep on going. One step at a time. Only then, you will realize the great potential that you had hidden inside you, and you will have the world at your feet.
The courage to face your ‘what if’?
What if I would have flown to Paris to meet her? What if I had not given up in the middle and pushed on more? What if I start a business, and it fails? These what-ifs haunt people for the rest of their lives. I heard this speech of Randy Pausch a teacher at Carnegie Mellon University who was about to die in 6 months. He had cancer, and this was his last lecture. In this lecture, he talks about his childhood dreams and goes on about how he has fulfilled all of them before dying. He says he didn’t want to have any “what if” moments when lying on his death bed. We are all like him. Nobody likes to think may be. Just maybe I could have done it. So I want to encourage you to take a chance and do things that you always wanted to do and not think about consequences especially what will people think about you.
Give it a try because if you have never tried and failed you have never lived.
The courage to say ‘No’?
There will be times when friends come to you with great ideas. Times when one of your best friends may come to you and ask you to invest in a scheme or Idea they clearly have not thought out or researched properly. I have learned the hard way that friendships can survive “No” more easily than they can survive a Ponzi scheme if you are not strong enough to make a decision. Judge every opportunity on it’s own merit. “Yes / No” should be determined by the information presented and nothing else.
Courage the Cowardly Dog
I remember when I was a kid I used to watch this hilarious cartoon show called “Courage the Cowardly Dog.” There was this lonely dog who was homeless, and two people (a lady called Muriel and her obnoxious husband Eustace) adopted him. These three people lived on a lonely farm in a simple house where no one was around for miles and were continuously attacked by weird people, ghosts, and other psychos. The dog’s name was “Coward” and as the name suggests he was very coward and would run away at the slightest sight of danger, but after Muriel had adopted him, he promised himself that he would protect her and her husband forever.
Now whenever any danger approached the house, he was so scared that his eyes popped out every time. But still somehow deep inside him he always found the courage to do what was right and what had to be done to protect his family. So be like “Courage, the Cowardly Dog”. You can feel afraid as much as you want. It’s the natural human response. But when the time comes to toughen up just shake yourself, brush your shoulders and go ahead and do it. Also, remember the dog was a big coward but what helped him gain his strength was his purpose. So make sure you also find a purpose in life that you believe and have the bravery to follow and achieve that purpose in the end.
Courage. A path very few follow.
Most people like to be in their comfort zones and dislike doing anything that might make them work hard or take risks. If you are telling yourself that you are not courageous, or you don’t have it in you, every day you are telling yourself a big lie. You want to believe that you don’t have enough choices in life so that you don’t have to toughen up and face the music. Facing tough situations is hard. If you think about it, that’s why we call them tough. Believe in yourself. You know you are awesome. You have more choices than you think. Imagine how much better your life will be if you follow this virtue of not giving in to your insecurities and fear but living your incredible life with courage. People will respect you. Closed ones will appreciate you.
Most importantly remember most of the world won’t even remember how brave you were, but that’s OK because you are a hero and true courage doesn’t require anything in return. So say no, have the courage to work hard, go that extra mile and try until you succeed. Don’t play it safe because deep down you know it won’t get you anywhere. Most importantly don’t forget to dream big.
– Darnell Smith